The other day one of my co-workers and I were chatting and they said something I’ve heard countless times since the girls’ births at 29 weeks, “I don’t know how you do it.” Every time someone says this to me, I’m unsure how to respond. The truth is, I don’t really know, either. I definitely […]
Depending on where you live, your local playground might feature some adapted equipment, most likely a swing. Our playground across the street was recently updated to be slightly more accessible; the sand that was throughout the whole playground was converted to a rubberized ground that’s easier to walk on, or push a stroller or wheelchair […]
Have you ever been in your car and looked over and the person next to you was crying? You don’t know why, and you don’t even know them, but you feel like you should do something? You offer a sympathetic smile or wave as you make eye contact before both of you driving off. Last […]
I’ve pretty much written about everything; my c section, breastfeeding, my battle with my weight, my fears for Ella. But I haven’t written much about my relationship. For so many reasons, I didn’t, and I really always felt like I was living a lie. And truth be told, I was. Everyone has assumed things about […]
Having a child with special needs is really hard, but having twins who have vastly different levels of ability makes it that much harder. People are constantly asking me if the girls are running circles around me, assuming they can both do the same things. I get it, you don’t assume someone has special needs. […]
The other night both girls were up and frantic, and after the third time of pacing with Raegan, I walked by my full-length mirror and snuck a peek. Seriously, my baby is gigantic. Let’s be real; Raegan will always be Itty Bitty to me, but seeing her, her body draped across mine, I realized, she’s […]
Yesterday was World Blood Donor Day, and I have a message for someone who is very special to me, yet someone I have never met. Someone who has no idea I exist. But to you, special person, you magnificent soul, you amazing person, thank you. Thank you for saving my baby’s life. Thank you for […]
I didn’t have to be at work as early this morning, so I stayed home with Raegan. I was going to take Ella to her Conductive Education class, but I’m sick, so decided I better avoid the other babies. I was thinking as I pushed her along in Buds’ old umbrella stroller that I rarely […]
Right now I’m holding my breath waiting for the first time Ella asks me why she’s different and what that means. I’ve become teary eyed reading others’ accounts of these talks, but we still have some time before that happens. Buds, on the other hand is three and knows what’s up. He’s smart and empathetic. […]
I’ve thought about the term “special needs” a lot since the girls were born. As a social worker, I’ve worked with kids and adults with all kinds of levels of functioning and with every type of concern or difficulty you could imagine. I’ve never liked labels. I don’t think social workers should identify anyone or […]
Adventures With Multiples 