All maternity leaves are not created equal

As someone who used to live in Chicago, I have often thought about what it would be like if I had had my girls in America, instead of Canada. For one thing, I’d be broke. Unless I had killer health insurance, my three week semi-private stay and the weekly doctor visits, ultrasounds, and specialist’s appointments […]

Sisterhood of the Traveling Cervix?

Recently on one of the mono mono facebook support groups, a member posted that she was leaving the group as she had lost her twins and reading members’ comments and complaining about inpatient care made her feel like everyone was ungrateful for the experience and the lives of their twins. While I cannot imagine what […]

Why we should stop sharing the picture of twins holding hands at birth

Yesterday, I went into a store, and upon seeing I had twins, a woman immediately asked me if I had seen the picture of the twins born holding hands. I told her I had, and that my girls are mono mono too. “Oh!” she said, “wasn’t that so sweet?” Yes, it is sweet, and that […]

The Re-Traumatization of a Fragile Mum

I recently joined some online support groups for parents of mono mono twins. I probably should have joined while I was still pregnant, but never really thought about it. Recently, I was perusing through facebook when I saw some mums had posted pictures of their mono mono twins’ cords; bloody, tangled, and often knotted. My […]

Popping in to say hello

Today the girls had their first post-NICU follow-up at Sunnybrook. It was mixed emotions going back, part of me felt happy to see people who were practically family for our stay in the hospital, and the other part anxious heading back to a place that holds so many memories and emotions. After Ella’s head injury […]

Parents of Preemie Day

Aside from May 4th being Star Wars day, it’s also Parent of Preemie Day. Now, it seems like every day is National day of something, but today hits home as a Mama of preemie girls. It’s hard to believe that it’s been 117 days since our girls were born 11 weeks early. We’ve come so […]

How do you say thank you?

I can’t imagine that upon seeing the two lines – pregnant!- anyone is hoping for a high risk pregnancy. The excitement and nervousness quickly turns to anxiety, fear, and the unknown. When we found out we were pregnant again, we never imagined the journey we were about to take. Dr. Hui discovered the twins, and […]